tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post8260073482719905136..comments2023-10-29T06:41:23.910-07:00Comments on Halfway There: The unpartneredZenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09058127284297728552noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-38917970776564939322010-10-15T16:32:09.911-07:002010-10-15T16:32:09.911-07:00I'm not too crazy about the "disorder&quo...I'm not too crazy about the "disorder" part of that explanation.Zenohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058127284297728552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-35119726527382878332010-10-15T15:18:33.882-07:002010-10-15T15:18:33.882-07:00I definitely agree with previous poster that schiz...I definitely agree with previous poster that schizoid personality disorder is the most likely explanation.<br /><br />It's well covered in two books: "Bachelors: The Psychology of Men Who Haven't Married" by Charles A. Waehler and "The New Personality Self-Portrait: Why You Think, Work, Love and Act the Way You Do" by John M. Oldham and Lois B. MorrisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-3307433778089285442010-06-02T08:35:47.104-07:002010-06-02T08:35:47.104-07:00Nice post. Came here via Pharyngula.
My first two...Nice post. Came here via Pharyngula.<br /><br />My first two real estate contracts had "spinster" on them.<br /><br />I think my way of being happily single is different than yours, but it's always nice to learn about a fellow hiker on this road less traveled.chgo_liznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-54619171902510181562010-02-15T23:57:36.066-08:002010-02-15T23:57:36.066-08:00I'm very hesitant to write this, because I don...I'm very hesitant to write this, because I don't like to identify others, but I feel obligated to say something. You can find similar experiences by googling "asexual". It's a sexual orientation, separate from gay, straight, or bi, though the orientations often blend together in unexpected ways. Asexuals are a distinct group from permanent singles, and from socially solitary people, but it's hardly surprising that the groups overlap.<br /><br />As a side note, the Asperger's community generally resents being stereotyped as asexual, and the asexual community generally resents being stereotyped as autistic.millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05990852054891771988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-45556709891615055362009-05-30T14:05:39.289-07:002009-05-30T14:05:39.289-07:00It was like junior college some years before, when...<I>It was like junior college some years before, when an acquaintance finally told me flat out near the end of the semester that my partner in our archery P.E. class had been waiting weeks for me to ask her out.</I><BR>I have lost count of the number of times I have been told 'X is waiting to for you to ask her out' (always by a woman) only to find, upon speaking to X, that X was in fact not interested.<BR><BR>I certainly can't claim to be cluefull about romantic matters, but over the years, I have come to realize that nearly all (I'm being generous here) of the people expended so much time and effort trying to push me into this relationship, that relationship, or, well, <I>any</I> relationship, were extremely unreliable judges of such matters.<BR><BR>(Eventually I realized that trying to co-operate with other people's seemingly endless efforts to get me involved with someone was a primary source of stress, and I started shunning people who were too pushy about it. That seems to have solved the problem. )<BR>llewellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16001213921499191213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-33546778426039023792009-05-12T13:40:00.000-07:002009-05-12T13:40:00.000-07:00if you did a search for "schizoid," the schizoid p...if you did a search for "schizoid," the schizoid personality disorder is the somewhat extreme end of what you're describing. No real desire for companionship, no desire for sex, not much emotional variation at all. <br /><br />It's different from aspergers because there's no ritualistic activity.<br /><br />There's a girl who describes what life is like as a schizoid, she's completely asexual and has a rich fantasy life on her own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-74322928341039042422008-11-01T17:44:00.000-07:002008-11-01T17:44:00.000-07:00Have you ever considered that you may have Asperge...Have you ever considered that you may have Asperger's Syndrome? It's not that you don't have empathy - it's that you don't speak the language that NTs do when it comes to social interactions. But I bet there are other ways in which you are more empathetic than many NTs, since people with Asperger's tend to have an greater ability to empathize with animals and people who are suffering or face a disadvantage (which would explain your liberal politics, I think ;-)).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-12966817927973181102007-08-20T11:25:00.000-07:002007-08-20T11:25:00.000-07:00Well, King Aardvark, the stay-at-home bachelor wor...Well, King Aardvark, the stay-at-home bachelor worked on the family ranch, so he was absolved of the accusation of being a deadbeat. He finally married a teenager when he was in his thirties and moved out -- to a house a couple of miles down the road. His job remained working on the ranch, though.<BR/><BR/>But, yes, I do think my family is different from most. In both good and bad ways.Zenohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058127284297728552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-4749998659441419792007-08-20T08:05:00.000-07:002007-08-20T08:05:00.000-07:00Hmm, your family is very different to mine. In mi...Hmm, your family is very different to mine. In mine, it would be, "You're 30 freakin years old, get the hell out of my house, ya deadbeat!"King Aardvarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02785457928646226831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-76075007795939213012007-08-18T12:41:00.000-07:002007-08-18T12:41:00.000-07:00It's more like puzzlement than pain, Interrobang, ...It's more like puzzlement than pain, Interrobang, though I thank you for sharing your comments. I'm very grateful that I don't have to put up with a roommate for financial reasons. Company? Arrggh! (The two years that I did that just after college put me right off the idea.)<BR/><BR/>Five time zones does seem a nice bit of elbow room for partners. I can see that working.<BR/><BR/>And I, too, have resolved to avoid killing certain friends.Zenohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058127284297728552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15868947.post-26841241494951279802007-08-18T12:21:00.000-07:002007-08-18T12:21:00.000-07:00I feel a vague inkling of your pain. I'm almost t...I feel a vague inkling of your pain. I'm almost that antisocial, but not quite. (I actually have a boyfriend. He lives five time zones away.)<BR/><BR/>I suspect you're the wrong sex to have had what I've heard called the "Pregnancy Police" come after you. I think misanthropic women get that one the most, since apparently our bodies are public property and it's considered ok to comment on our reproductive status to our faces.<BR/><BR/>You probably also don't get the same thing I've encountered where friends of mine (and I haven't killed them yet) tell me that they're glad I now live with a roommate (for financial reasons), because then there's "someone around in case something happens."<BR/><BR/>When I was teaching, I don't think I would have noticed if any of my students had been hitting on me. In fact, in retrospect, I think one of them was and I never noticed... Now I'm back to documenting software, and it doesn't hit on me <I>or</I> talk back. :)Interrobanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14073177798747299275noreply@blogger.com